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Frivolous Friday: Creating for Joy

Last night before I shut down my computer and headed up to bed I decided I was going to publish a post here today no matter what it ended up looking like. I’ve been in a funk of not showing up very well for myself when I set goals lately. I’m working hard to follow through on smaller things I set out to do in order to regain some momentum and trust in my word to myself. I am learning that can’t show up for others like I truly want to until I learn to do so for myself first.


So today, showing up looks like this…


I have loved writing for as long as I can remember and creating in this space has been such a fulfilling experience for me. It must be noted that in my ideal world, I would post here every week. Maybe even more – like two times a week! But for whatever reason, I haven’t been able to make that a reality. I’ve got lots of excuses – and some of them are truly legit. This season of life is chaotic and demanding. Covid and quarantine life have kept me in an unpredictable tailspin from week to week. Most evenings I find myself collapsed on the couch after the kids are tucked into bed – I’m exhausted, burned out, and exasperated.


The last thing I feel capable of doing by then is to wrap my brain around creating words that other adults will be interested in reading!
Frivolous Friday: Creating for Joy - a blog post by Yours Truly, Eliza B. • Creating for JOY is actually incredibly important, profound, inspiring, relevant, and significant work. • photo by Eliza B.

But as I dig deeper, I am realizing that there are a lot of other underlying things coming to light. Somewhere along the way I seem to have invented some complicated internal pressures surrounding my own personal expectations here. I subconsciously decided that what I create here must be profound, inspiring, relevant, and/or significant in some magically quantitative way. And if my inner critic deems the content here a “miss” for those criteria, then the quality of what I am creating must also be as much.


If you read my August goals post, you know that I’ve been doing some difficult introspective work on my procrastination lately and fears I have that are associated with it – really trying to gain clarity around “why” I procrastinate like I do. One main reason I believe is that the pressures I have invented (mentioned above) have stolen some of my joy of creating in this space. I carry a lot of fears in my back pocket: The fear of not doing enough. The fear of failure. The fear of not being good enough. It is not fun to feel as though your creativity is not profound, inspiring, relevant, and/or significant enough. And when the qualifying markers for “enough” are a mystery (or over-rated!), the expectations to succeed become overwhelming.


So I’m working to create a positive shift here. I want to bring back the joy.

Frivolous Friday: Creating for Joy - a blog post by Yours Truly, Eliza B. • Creating for JOY is actually incredibly important, profound, inspiring, relevant, and significant work. • photo by Eliza B.

I’m looking to lift the burden of subconscious pressure I have brought upon myself here. I want to give myself permission to write pointless, random, and even shitty posts here if I feel so inclined! Hopefully you’re not reading this thinking, oh great – now she’s TRYING to write shitty posts! Ha! I think what’s important for me here is loosening the reigns and releasing self-imposed restraints that hold me back. To write and share with bold creative abandon. Creating for joy and not worrying about the SEO, the layout or readability, the cohesiveness, how important it is, or even the big picture.


Because creating for joy is actually incredibly important, profound, inspiring, relevant, and significant work.

Frivolous Friday: Creating for Joy - a blog post by Yours Truly, Eliza B. • Creating for JOY is actually incredibly important, profound, inspiring, relevant, and significant work. • "Important Work" by Brian Andreas
“Important Work” by Brian Andreas


Frivolous can be defined as not having any serious purpose or value. I would like to hereby deem today “Frivolous Friday” (because I always love a good alliteration!). Let this be an opportunity for all of us to choose to create just for the fun of it. Where the process and the result are not tied to any expectations other than simply JOY.


What better reason is there for us to do what we love?

Frivolous Friday: Creating for Joy - a blog post by Yours Truly, Eliza B. • Creating for JOY is actually incredibly important, profound, inspiring, relevant, and significant work. • photo from Unsplash.com

5 Comments

  • Tricia Sabol

    It’s SO easy to put pressure on yourself to perform when you’ve put yourself in the public eye, no matter what the size of your platform is. Congrats on getting past your inner critic today and publishing this post! I hope it brought you some joy! 🙂

    • elizab

      Woohoo! Yes! Thank you Paula! I guess the same thing can be applied to being free to make shitty art too, right?! When we release the grip of expectation and control we are more free to let our creative imagination lead us toward joy!

      • Gaylor Ryan

        I was reading through your posts the other day, and I began what turned out to be a rather lengthy response, then the phone rang… While I searched for my point of departure here I discovered “my rather lengthy response” was gone,
        erased as though it had never existed.
        So now I have found my place again to tell you that I really love reading the words of your thoughts. You should not doubt anything you are doing. You have already accomplished more in your life than most people ever do. Don’t ever think you are not enough. You are way more than enough!
        I see you try so hard to make up for whatever it is you may think that you’re not.
        You try hard at the things you do!
        You are very intelligent, funny, and kind.
        You have an awful lot on your plate, and
        I see how hard you try, work, and do.
        You are a success!!!
        You are precious and wonderful just the way you are. Just know that. 💕🙏🏼🦋
        I love you always. ~Gay

        • elizab

          This is quite possibly one of the nicest comments I’ve gotten. Thank you so much Gay for taking the time to encourage and support me (especially since you technically did it 2x!!). You have always been important to me and I am so thankful for your kind loving words. I love you too. xx

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